Reader Reviews: "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction"

[Wes]

Please post your reviews of "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction" on this thread. If you haven't read it yet, you can learn more about it here:

http://www.no-porn.com/tenkeys.html

I have been immensely grateful for the positive feedback the book has received. Here are just a few responses:

“I will read it again and again.”
“You have given me some great new ideas.”
“It really helps me keep focused.”
“I cannot thank you enough.”
“Very helpful.”
“It gave me hope.”
“I… have actually lost count of how long I have been free.”
“I now have hope and direction.”

I hope you enjoy "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction" and that it helps your recovery in a meaningful way.

Warm regards,

Wes
Webmaster
No-porn.com Support Board

[IWillNotBeWeakToday]

I was asked to share this PM I sent to Wes. This book is honestly the best resource I've come across so far.

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Wes,
I just bought and read your Ten Keys book. It was a remarkable collection of memories and analysis of thought and perspective that, while amazingly analagous to myself, I never could have put into words. I will use this book to analyze my own thoughts and emotions and use the tools in it to defeat (or at least, contain) my addiction. I truly appreciate your book and the support board that you've assembled. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

God bless you,
I

[splag]

My own response to Wes

"Thank you for the E-book. Somehow I don't think I'll be asking for my money back. I read it all in one sitting and I have the attention span of a toddler.

I'm an atheist, and I got to the part on higher power which was something I always rolled my eyes at. But this gave me something. I do have a higher power, my own beliefs and philosophies about the potential of mankind and of the individual. I can look to this faith and belief for support. I can look to the philosophies I know deep down are true. It's every bit as powerful for me as a religious person's faith in God.

Guess I'm just saying thank you. It's a good read in clear cut simple language for us less intellectual types that for once isn't talking down to me or isn't laden with psychological mumbo jumbo."

There's lots more good stuff in there. I've refered to it more than once already.

[MapleStaple]

Just read the book a few days ago myself. It's a great resource for someone like myself, and the personal experience of someone who has recovered is very helpful for someone just beginning a journey that I hope will be very short.

[Wes]

I received permission to share this email that I received Christmas Day:

My name is Charles, I am from South Africa and am here in the States on holiday with my family.

My wife and kids went of to Universal Studios today ( Christmas day) and I stayed behind because of tension between my wife and I as a result of my porn addiction. ( She found me on the internet . . . a few days ago).

After looking at various sites on the internet today regarding sex/ porn addiction I found your site and downloaded your book.

It was like looking into a mirror when you described your feelings and thoughts and your candour and honesty has been VERY helpful in letting me see that I am not alone the struggles I go through, yet that does not justify my behaviour. Your PRACTICAL and sometimes humourous pointers about how to start on the road to sobriety were a real eye opener to me.

The down to earth style of the book and the feeling of not being "preached at and condemned" for my failures, but instead just your sharing from the heart and showing that a fuller, more productive and meaningful life is possible for us all, was amazing.

Today has become the start of a new life for me. One I want to be able to look back on with pride as I say with a clear conscience, "I never use porn or masturbate now"

Thank you for helping me to reach that point.

[lamaboy]

Just want to add a few more thoughts.
I read it on Thanksgiving Day. I was alone and feeling sorry for myself. But instead of acting out, I read 10 Keys. It was single best thing I've read on staying sober.

A couple random points that were valuable to me -
the voice telling me to act out is not the same as "me," and a particular statement - "I never use porn or masturbate now," is particularly useful in fighting the voice.

To be sober, you might have to give up sleep for a night (or two.)

Acting out even a couple times a year can be devastating for your partner.

I also appreciated that the stories in the book were honest, but not triggering in any way (unlike some other books about porn addiction.)

Lastly, I loved the sense of hope that pervaded the entire book. More than anything else, I need hope to fight this addiction.

This book is an invaluable resource for anyone in any stage of recovery from porn addiction.

- Tom

[eljefemaz]

I want to express my appreciation for Ten Keys as well. I have been in my recovery since June of 06, and while I have had some good periods of sobriety, I can look back and see I hit a wall.

After my last slip, I was moved to download Ten Keys. I had it read in two sittings; there were times it brought tears to my eyes. There, in writing, were thoughts and feelings I had but was never able to put into words. New ideas, new tools were opened to me . I would love to write about the specific keys that appealed to me, but I want to maintain the mystery.

Granted, I am still an addict, and I am working on "only" 68 current days of sobriety. However, in those previous periods of sobriety, I did not have any outlook for success. Instead, I felt rather grim about future sobriety. After reading Ten Keys, though, I have gained hope in my fight. There is light at the end of this proverbial tunnel.

As such, I really believe that we all can learn something from reading Ten Keys. Download it; you will not be sorry.

-EJ

[joeydenise]

Wes
I want to express my gratitude for this site and the 10 keys. I joined the site last night and have just finished reading your book. I was sincerely touched and enlightened. I myself have been in a heavy fog of P & MB and have not been able to see reality as it really exists for years. Exposing your personal experiences and tendencies with P and MB has truly enlightened me and given me the motivation I need to turn my life around and stop hurting others. It was as if you had interviewed me personally for most chapters in the book. Thank you for your efforts and dedication to help others. I will do my best to use the 10 keys as a model for my own recovery plan and keep it close by for future reference. I wish you and NO-PORN .com much success.
Thank You, JD-

[leapoffaith]

I thought I was going to go crazy until I read this. Wes I don't know what to say, except thank you.

[helenverysad]

Well i'm here now, I have never really got to grips with the compulsion & addiction but crises have forced me to this point and I am just embarking on the long road to (hopefully) recovery. 50 years old and been at it since 5 or 6; 1 failed marriage, one in severe jeopardy and then 2 weeks a go caught at work (in a school) looking at p. Think I'll lose my job, possibly house and possibly wife & son.
So the only way is up now.
I'm having to access the interent via my wife's log in as I am in no state to be trusted alone at the keyboard.
I have downloaded the key steps and have read it, it fills me with hope and fear. Hope that this all-consuming, dangerous obsession can be gone and fear that I will be unable to cope without 'my little secret world'.
For too long despite signs and warnings sane people would recognise and obey, I have denied the problem and only now do I think I am beginning to face up to it. In a perverse way it si good to know I am not alone and that there are thousands out there like my family & I whose lives are ruined by this obsession.

One thing that fills me with fear & dread is my willingness to be honest & confess if I slip up, For so long this secret world has led me to lie, conceal and hide such a huge shameful part of my life that I can only hope this new resolve to be honest with my heartbroken wife will survive that challenge. I know if that v fragile chain of trust & honesty is broken, I truly will be lost.
The Ten Keys seems inspiring, so much resonnates with my world of shame & guilt & obsession. In a desperate attempt to seek help when I was first discovered at work 2 weeks ago, I bought an overtly faith-based book. As an atheist, much made little sense to me. But there was something quite heartening about being told just how evil p is and how I should stop. The Ten keys has I hope moved me on to a more relevant programme.

Thank you for the hope