Reader Reviews: "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction"

[Falconer]

(Originally posted in my journal)
Wow, I finished reading Ten Keys. What an important read. I resisted reading it at first because I had Wes original essay printed out and thought I would just read and use that as a general plan. I found that plan didn't work though and Wes mentions in Ten Keys that he considers this plan naive. Anyone who has not read this I highly recommend it. I liked how short it was (80 pages) because I was not really interested in reading another 300 page self-help book, Im tired of those.

[leapoffaith]

I like page 19. As I sat reading it this morning, I was able to tie that very behavior discribed on that page to what I was feeling earlier this morning. My mind just seemed to go there and I almost listened.

[salvagingmyself]

Last night I was having trouble sleeping due to the urges. I just lay there thinking of what Wes said on page 26 - “I don’t care how miserable I am, or how long my night is, or how tired I am tomorrow. Tonight I am sober.”

Pleased to say I'm still sober today, even if I didn't get to sleep until 4:30. =)

[bubbles4u35]

I just finished reading "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction" I found out recently that my husband is addicted to Pornography. This book gave me some insight into what at first was a completely unknown realm for me. I have done a lot of research over the past week and came across your site. There are lots of thoughts and feelings going through my head and heart that I can't identify yet but your book did let me see that it is truly an addiction.

Thank You

[cup of tea]

(this is from my journal)

These are some thoughts that came to me when finally reading the Ten Keys. I have to say, I probably got more out of it now that I would have, had I read it when first starting out to recover. But maybe even so I'll return to it after some time. Might well be that it's other passages then that help me out. Anyway, I'd like to thank Wes for writing it, it's been really helpful.


I really like to envision my addiction as a beast in a cage, and to know where that beast lives exactly. For me, such a visualisation helps a lot in monitoring and modifying my thouhts and behaviour.

Pain is part of any life - so true. I am trying to grasp on this idea from many angles, since I've been very good at putting it off for so long. I didn't want pain in my life, I don't want to die etc etc. But it is natural. I can only try to do the best with what is given to me, to rephrase Gandalf

Try to be of service to others - I think that this might be a really important step for me. Turn outwards. Don't just continue with navel-gazing. The world is out there and there's lots of people who have a worse situation in life than me. But I can help them. I want to find a way to contribute, and reading this section at this precise moment was very encouraging.

Forgiving myself - Also very hard, but also one of the most important points both in the book and in my recovery. I should definately make a list of these things and then forgive myself for them.


"There are just things we have to do to make up for the things we’re bad at."

This was very empowering. I try to keep in mind that everyone has their burden to bear. This sentence captures that idea in a simple form, easily remembered.

- cup of tea

[due4change]

Well I have just completed reading Ten Keys and I have to say it is most definitely worth the purchase.

I have been reading it a few keys a day for the last few days and it is an extremely eye opening experience. There is so much in there that my head is still trying to grasp much of it and so much applies to me.

Thank you for writing this as I know I will read it many more times.

[cdl1968]

Will alway keep it close to me.Has opened up to me what my life has been like.

[Traveler]

I had a complete loss of all data on my computer, including the copy of Ten Keys I already purchased. Is there anyway I can get another copy?

[breakingfree]

Send an email to Wes at tenkeys@no-porn.com and tell him what happened.


bf

[anton]

Wes

I want to personally thank you for writing the 10 Keys. The book has been critical in turning me around from a life mired in P & MB to one filled with hope for a brighter future.

I am at the early stages of recovery and have been clean for only 20 days but these have possibly been the happiest of my life. I know the road to recovery is long and challenging, and the temptations will inevitably come, but I am slowly building up my defenses to handle each situation. The 10 Keys will be one of the biggest weapons in my arsenal.

Thank you